1. Identify your roadblock: Ask yourself what is holding me back from living life again? FEAR is a very common roadblock in grief. There are two ways a person can respond to FEAR. Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise. Learning how to face Fears and trust in God is painful and scary. Fear can be a powerful thing. The more fear is fed, the more anxiety and fear grows. Nothing good comes out of fear only more fear.
2. Learn how to make the pain of grief apart of you, like it is your new best friend. Learning how to walk this new life can be painful and even crippling. Avoiding, running, or hiding from pain does not help in moving a person forward in their process, it only prolongs it.
3. Learn how to be thankful in all circumstances. This may seem difficult or even unattainable, but it is possible. When a person is thankful, even despite tragedy amazing things can happen, hope becomes alive. It is hard to be both angry and thankful at the same time. Abraham Lincoln, declared a national holiday of Thanksgiving. But did you know that he had many tragedies in his life that included his mother dying when he was 9, a business that failed, his wife died, and 3 out of his 4 children died all before the ages of 18. You may ask your self what did this man have to be Thankful for? Everything. If you ever have the chance to read the Proclamation of Thanksgiving written by Abraham Lincoln, the words are so amazing how is thanking and praising despite all of his life's circumstances.
4. Pour your pain into something positive. Finding a healthy way to have an outlet for one's pain to go is very important in the whole grieving process. At times the heaviness of grief can weigh a person down. Learning how to find a positive outlet can drastically change the outcome into a positive one. Running races can help put the pain to the pavement, writing in journals can help funnel emotions by putting the pen to the paper. Finding your own unique way can help you take the step forward in your journey. You never know what amazing thing can grow from your pain until you put it towards something positive.
5. Share the love of your loved one with others. Even though your loved one may not exist on this Earth, the love you have in your heart for them, still exists. There is no pain without a purpose. Cling to the love you have for your loved one and share it with others, when you do, great things grow from it like joy, peace, and happiness. When you are loving you are living. When you cling to the love, you are not letting any more room for fear. Do not let fear win or overtake you anymore. Hold on to the love you have, share it with others by doing acts of kindness and celebrate your loved one's life. "Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love." --Mother Theresa
Not all of us will have the same journey or respond in the same way, and that is okay. The process of grief is a life long process. Learning how to make grief apart of you and how to live life again can take awhile. I believe we were all made to not just survive, but to thrive. Perspective changes everything. I encourage you to try something new, pour your pain into something positive, do acts of kindness, whatever it may be, find your own unique way to heal, whatever speaks to your heart. I pray that you will be have a blessed journey and that these tips have encouraged you to do something positive and bring you hope.